{"id":351,"date":"2018-08-07T18:12:46","date_gmt":"2018-08-07T18:12:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.nodeskproject.com\/blog\/?p=351"},"modified":"2018-08-07T18:12:46","modified_gmt":"2018-08-07T18:12:46","slug":"why-i-said-no-to-success-and-quit-the-real-world","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nomadize.com\/blog\/why-i-said-no-to-success-and-quit-the-real-world\/","title":{"rendered":"Why I Said No to Success and Quit the “Real World”"},"content":{"rendered":"

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We all tend to be cautious in the ways that we approach the world. If our life doesn\u2019t match the preconceived notions of what \u201csuccess\u201d has become in our modern day, we tend to dive deep into the self-worth game. Ultimately telling ourselves that we aren\u2019t going anywhere with our future and believing that if we don\u2019t have one of these two things\u200a\u2014\u200awealth and status\u200a\u2014\u200athen we might as shrivel away to nothing.<\/p>\n

These two \u201ctraits\u201d have become a correlative pair in the past few years and have taught us that we aren\u2019t truly \u201csuccessful\u201d until we have something defining us. Whether it is having a good job and managing people, or being the most valuable player in our community. Either way, we tend to think that we need to do or have something to be spectacular.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve recently come to the realization that \u201csuccess\u201d to me has become less of what I have, and more about what I do. I\u2019ve been on a constant path of never ending questions, trying to determine the value of success in my life and even finding an ulterior route to it. I didn\u2019t want the high-paying, high-status corporate career. I didn\u2019t want to be that famous local startup founder that everyone is raving about. I wanted to be happy. I wanted to find my true self even if that meant defying all traditional practices of success.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not going to lie, it\u2019s hard to take a step back from the \u201creal world.\u201d To say no to things that you have learned to crave for so long. To break through the borders that society has set. But that is all part of truly finding yourself and finding what your personality aches for. What makes you, you.<\/p>\n

Here are a few of the questions that I asked myself while trying to find the true meaning of success in my life.<\/p>\n

1. Where is my happy\u00a0place?<\/h2>\n

Everyone seems to have a \u201chappy place.\u201d A place of comfort, where you can feel safe and secure, and overall \u201chappy.\u201d For some, this tends to be a childhood home, or the location of an annual family vacation.<\/p>\n

When I tried to picture this place, nothing specific came to mind. It was a little frustrating and to be honest, a tiny bit concerning. Why couldn\u2019t I come up with anything? What could possibly be wrong with me? I love so many places but I don\u2019t have a happy place. How does that even make sense? And then it hit me. It was because I have fallen in love with so many places, time and time again, my heart can\u2019t handle just having one happy place. My happy place can not be contained\u200a\u2014\u200ait\u2019s every place I have ever been and will ever travel to. I\u2019m a natural born explorer, longing for experiences. So, why limit myself to only one when my heart craves so much more?<\/p>\n

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2. Do I actually need things to be\u00a0happy?<\/h2>\n

As someone who has been a fan of the minimalist movement for quite a while now, I can assure you that having \u201cthings\u201d is not as big of a deal as you once thought it was. In fact, they tend to bring more clutter and chaos into your life.. I\u2019ve found that I am in my happiest state when I have less and can do more. It\u2019s truly freeing to not be bound by things.<\/p>\n

3. What do I want to\u00a0achieve?<\/h2>\n

At any age, it\u2019s hard to know exactly what you want from life. Which is why I took a major step into the \u201cnow,\u201d and stopped thinking as much into the future as I had been. I used to picture this fantasy life for myself\u200a\u2014\u200afull of money from my high paying job as a doctor, and probably a beach house or two. But when I stopped thinking about the instant gratification that I would get from being \u201crich,\u201d I realized that I could fulfill my life\u2019s greatest wishes in other ways. Ways that involved me refraining from the societal norms and focusing in on defining my life\u2019s present<\/em> vision.<\/p>\n

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So, how do these question about happiness and achievements apply to\u00a0success?<\/h2>\n

Not everyone is going to have the same definition of success\u200a\u2014\u200aand we shouldn\u2019t. We are all different, as should be our dreams and aspirations. But for most, the relevancy between happiness and success is very common. I\u2019ve found that I am more likely to define something as successful when it makes me happy. When I am able to grin from ear to ear because of the life i\u2019ve been able to create for myself.<\/p>\n

This success and happiness for me has become a never ending cycle of travel, working remotely, experiencing new adventures and cultures, and learning new things. It\u2019s become less about what I have and more about where i\u2019m at, what i\u2019ve done and where i\u2019m headed. The idea that I should have things that don\u2019t accurately represent me has completely vanished and I can focus in on the success of being able to explore life.<\/p>\n

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So, what does success mean to you and where are you going to find it?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

We all tend to be cautious in the ways that we approach the world. If our life doesn\u2019t match the preconceived notions of what \u201csuccess\u201d has become in our modern day, we tend to dive deep into the self-worth game. Ultimately telling ourselves that we aren\u2019t going anywhere with our future and believing that if … <\/p>\n

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